My sister is two years older than me..
It seems we fought a lot when we were young..
But thinking about it carefully,
After entering middle school.. from around 8th grade, it seems we almost never fought..
Born from the same mother,
Living together every day,
It took over 10 years before we somewhat understood each other (?)
It seems we stopped fighting..
Even though we were born from the same mother,
It took over 10 years to stop fighting..
Then how much time would it take for a couple who were strangers to each other to stop fighting..?
It's been nearly 20 years since we got married..
But we still fight from time to time..
However, the frequency is decreasing..
There might be parts where we're gradually understanding each other more,
But I think there are also parts where we're giving up (?) on some things..
It was before our second child was born..
We fought more back then than we do now..
It seems the fights were always started by me..
The main reason we fought was..
I used to drink a lot.. and very frequently..
So we mainly fought because of that..
One day we had another fight..
These days, if one side started saying things, I would back off and leave..
But back then, I was more hot-headed and had more testosterone surging..
After the fight..
I have a rebellious streak and a stubborn streak,
So I didn't go to work..
The driver was waiting in front of the house..
But I just loaded my golf clubs and went to the golf course..
I went to the golf course and played alone..
But how could I play golf properly..?
I sat in the shelter, drinking beer and thinking about this and that,
Even though I wasn't going to work,
I thought I should at least report to my boss that I couldn't come in..
Wow~~
The fact that I thought to call even in that confused state,
Shows I didn't want to get fired from the company..
I called my boss..
I lowered my voice and told him I was sick and couldn't come in..
But my boss is perceptive..
What's wrong..?
He said to me..
I'm not sure if my tongue was twisted from the alcohol or not,
But when he asked what was wrong,
I felt a bit guilty trying to lie about being sick..
I'm sorry..
My wife and I had a fight today,
And I don't think I'd be able to work in this state,
So I won't be able to come in today..
That's what I told him..
I expected to get scolded..
But he just asked what it was about..
So I said.. well, couples fight a lot anyway..
I dodged the question a bit..
Okay.. don't wander around too long..
Just spend a reasonable amount of time and then go home.. he said to me..
I was quite surprised..
I thought I'd get a lecture, but he accepted it so naturally (?) that
I was able to relax and played golf with a drink before heading home..
That afternoon, I made up with my wife..
The next day..
I went to work and my boss called..
He asked to have lunch together..
Ah..
I prepared myself to get scolded and went to the meeting place..
He came in with a bright smile and entered the reserved room..
He sat down and..
Did you drink a lot yesterday..?
Your face looks terrible.. he said..
He bought me beef.. saying to restore my strength..
And he started giving me advice on how marriage should be like this.. or like that,
Passionately coaching me in his own way..
That sight..
Really moved me deeply..
If a Korean employee of my company called..
And said they had a marital fight and didn't want to come to work,
Would I be able to do the same if I were the boss..?
Would I buy beef for an employee who didn't come in and coach them too..?
Could I do that..? I thought..
So..
Even now, after leaving that company and working at another one,
When he asks for help, I run to help him..
And while it's not much, I send him fruit boxes on holidays..
Isn't that great..?
There's no subject..
