Are you still doing nagging discipline?
No. You should practice value-based discipline.
The reason we discipline is to instill proper attitudes.
The purpose is not immediate behavior control, but to help children live with proper attitudes even after they become independent.
Therefore, discipline should aim to instill proper values in children.
This is because human behavior is controlled by the values one possesses.
In fact, this is something any parent who is even slightly interested in discipline naturally knows.
This is because multiple professors and experts commonly emphasize this fact.
However, many parents still tend to focus on nagging to control immediate misbehavior.
As a result, they tend to neglect the truly important discipline of instilling values.
That is why I am telling you this.
For example
You must study. You must go to bed early.
Stop playing games now.
You should not do other things while eating.
You must eat vegetables.
This kind of nagging about behavior control only works for that moment.
If you don't want to nag your child for life beyond their 20s, 30s, and 40s, you must instill values.
Focus on what you are doing now.
When you do difficult work, you grow.
To do what you want to do, you must first do what needs to be done.
Promises must be kept.
We must practice discipline that instills values like these—values that our children can carry in their hearts for a lifetime.
I am not saying you should never nag.
Immediate behavior control is also absolutely necessary.
However, since parents cannot always control their children's behavior,
we must focus more on discipline that instills proper values so children can control their own behavior.
The method is simple.
Identify your child's problem, prepare values related to it, and share them together when you need to give guidance.
Now, if you have a sense of how to proceed, I hope you will start value-based discipline instead of nagging discipline from today.
